Is Baby Invited?
Posted on 15. Apr, 2010 by CharShaff in The balancing act
Do I bring the baby to lunch with me? This is a quandary I have just recently started to have and not sure how to go about it as Jake gets older. Ever since I had Jake seven months ago, my efforts to “do lunch” have dwindled by the the mere fact that I now use the midday time to either work, entertain Jake or scarf down a sandwich with one hand, while vacuuming with the other. So, when I can get out and do lunch, I either have a date with people who are dying to see and hold Jake or ones who just want my attention, usually work-related friends. Luckily, most of the latter ask politely if the lunch can be “kid-free” ahead of time and I totally don’t mind.
But what do you do when you haven’t seen someone in a long time, they don’t have kids and they don’t preface ”kid or no kid?” Do you ask if its OK to bring the baby, hoping they will be honest? Or, do you just assume that its probably a good idea to set up a sitter? In the past week, I planned two lunches where I automatically assumed the party I’d be joining for lunch wouldn’t want Jake there, since it was more of professional relationship, but after making plans for Jake to be watched, I was asked if I was bringing him because they wanted to see him. I also planned an afternoon to catch up with another couple my husband and I haven’t seen since before the baby. I figured for sure it was a time to get a sitter, but didn’t know, so I asked if honestly they wanted Jake there or not. They said to bring him, but part of me wonders if they said it to be polite?
Maybe I am making too much out of this, but how have you approached lunches with your kid and colleagues and friends?
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